On Control, Blindness, and the Spirit of Playfulness

The more expectations one has – the more deceptions.

Expectations gradually become psychological patterns creating  a mental and emotional dependence.

Everything and everyone is seen and conceived through the screen of these psychological expectative patterns.

The spirit of playfulness may serve as an efficient medicine as it is experienced as adventure, risk taking, poise, temperance, curiosity, and the gusto to explore alternatives and the Unknown.

All these aspects force the mental and emotional system to redirect the attention from static expectative fixations towards experiencing the dynamic, mysterious, non-repetitive eternal nature of the Life and Death Cycle.

The cultivation of the spirit of playfulness counter-acts the harmful effects of control.

The grand and mysterious Cycle of Life and Death teaches the optimal lesson on the necessity to get rid of control – no one knows exactly the day of birth and how it will be accomplished. Surely no-one knows the day of death and the process of agony.

The ungraspable but very concrete Lord of Death is a reminder to follow the path of temperance, humility, simplicity, enhancing day after day the ability of adaptation to circumstances. These characteristics facilitate the path, turning the mental and emotional system agile and flexible, therefore more stable and resistant to troubled times.

The Lord of Death likewise reminds us that we are born naked and die naked: Possessions are of vital importance as a way to live well. They become destructive if they turn to be the quasi-unique goal of life.

Possessing as a goal tends to create expectations to possess more matter, power, and control people.

Eventually the expectative and possessive mind and emotional system turn out to be essentially dualistic: whatever serves as addition to the territorial automatic pattern is regarded as an advantage, while whatever forms an obstacle to reach the goal – is compellingly considered as a flow.

At this point the neurotic soul is continuously busy fostering the eventually “good” event or people while refuting the eventually “bad” ones.

Entangled by this dualistic psychological state of mind, the person becomes blinder to what actually occurs.

Blindness to external reality and imprisonment by illusive self-entanglement are the chief sources of deception, aggression, tension, unease, and depression.

The controller develops a growing dependence on the actual or virtual possessions – may these be matter, events or people.

Immersed in this existential self-trap, the actual develops into a foggy screen – diminishing the aptitude of looking, contemplating, and seeing.

The spirit of playfulness should be part of the academic agenda to grant better perceptions and accomplishment of wellness as an essential part of our life and death cycle.


About Dr. Dorit Kedar

Forced to continuously change nations, cultures and schooling - I had to develop a wider sense of communication, a way of thinking-feeling-behaving which stresses the common denominators. The need to adapt new landscapes and land-souls has taught instinctive means to overcome separatism, prejudices, dogmatic beliefs and suspicions. While looking for the common gathering denominators, I have also increased the ability of perception and individuation. Being constantly in estranged places has triggered psychological processes to turn the unfamiliar into familiar. As an art critic in the Israeli press, a curator, a writer - have always dealt with the otherness, the different and the infinite variety of the Existent. My Book of Peace is the result.
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